Deity Clones Hermaphroditic Human to Provide Partner

This is the first of a series of posts that will present the weekly parsha in the style of many internet articles and their headlines that talk about issues in a way that tends to sensationalize them. Often the headlines are referred to as “click-bait” or a “Buzzfeed” style.

After working hard most of the week Elohim crated a bipedal sentient species dubbed “human”. Being late in the week Elohim chose to make this new species hermaphroditic rather than setting up two or more different anatomies for reproductive systems. After taking a much needed rest day Elohim conducted an experiment. The human, named Adam for having come from the ground according to one report covering the creation, was placed in an exclusive resort garden called Eden. Not long after being put in the garden, a rather idyllic setting, Adam started to show signs of distress from the isolation. Read the rest of this entry »

Coming Out. Again.

One of the most difficult experiences someone who falls under the LGBT or queer umbrellas faces is that of coming out. It is a time of uncertainty, anxiety, fear, and trepidation. We worry, quite rightly, that we will lose friends and family. Sometimes we know this for a certainty. We may also be worrying about losing our jobs, or if self employed about losing clients. It is one of the most difficult times that we go through in our journeys. There is also an overwhelming sense that we are expected to justify our identities to those around us. How often do trans or genderqueer people get asked, “are you SURE you’re trans?” or, “are you SURE you’re genderqueer?” Coming out is a point in a journey, it is rarely the beginning point, and there is usually a process of self discovery that preceeds it. So having come out once, as trans, one would think that would be it, that there can be nothing that equals it, or a reason to come out again. Yet, here I am finding myself having to come out again, but for different reasons, yet the feelings and apprehensions are much the same. It is a point on my ongoing journey of self discovery and intentional reflection. Read the rest of this entry »

When One’s Name isn’t the most Beautiful Sound

A number of years ago I took the Dale Carnegie course on human relations and one of the “golden rules” taught is “Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.” This is an interesting rule, and for the most people it is true. For many of us, however, the name we were given at birth may not be the sweetest sound. While I know this from the perspective of a trans person, there are many reasons why someone may not feel that the name they were given at birth is the sweetest sound. Many people change their names for reasons other than transition. My experience talking to people is that when they do choose a new name, for whatever reason, it is so that their name matches who they are as a person and reflects their journey in life. Read the rest of this entry »

Oppression in LGBTQ “Communities”

Since my epiphany, transition and my coming out as a woman who is also trans I have been following, and I have been involved in various levels of activism. One of the areas of activism that I find particularly poignant and important centers around oppression and the intersectionalities of oppression. I also tend to get rather irked when I see situations of injustice, which usually involve people who are oppressed in some way. With a number of Pride events taking place around the world through the month of June issues around oppression within LGBTQ ‘communities’ have occasionally been raised. The issues that get raised center around issues of poverty, race, and transmisogyny – usually, but not exclusively, directed against trans women of color – in LGBTQ communities. When these issues are raised, the responses by those in privileged positions often takes the form of gaslighting, erasure and dismissal of concerns without any real hearing.

Reflecting on these through the various lenses with which I view the world I have noticed that these systemic oppressions tend to follow that of the ‘straight’ patriarchal world. Those who are masculine, particularly cis male and masculine, are privileged over those who are female or feminine. Those who are white are privileged over people of colour, those who follow gender norms and / or are cisgender are privileged over those who are not, and those with money are privileged over those of us who are struggling to get by. As one friend posted when some of these issues were pointed out with regard to how Pride events tend to be organized the response is commonly, “please don’t talk about these things, we just want to party and never talk about the problems that many LGBTQ people still face.” Once Pride events are over many, if not most, of those in privileged positions then go back to their normative lives that fit in nicely with mainstream society and still want us to be quiet about the injustices we face. We only need to look at how many, if not the majority, of mainstream articles refer to LGBT stories, either we’re all lumped under the “Gay” umbrella (for example blogs about trans issues under the “Gay Voices” section on Huffington Post), or those who are not Gay or Lesbian are not part of what is categorized as an “LGBT” story. Read the rest of this entry »

Nuances of Self Identification

When I’m asked for a biography of myself there is always the question of how I want to identify, a woman, a trans woman, a transgender woman, and the list goes on. In the most recent version of the self identification portion of my biography I state that I am “a woman who is also trans.” I do this knowing that it is an unusual way to self identify, the two most common self identifications for those on the transfeminine spectrum that I have seen lately are “trans woman” or “transgender woman.” So why this way of putting it, after all, it might confuse people. I describe myself this way because I am more than the trans part of my identity. In terms of my gender identity I am female, a woman, and a rather femme woman at that. I also happen to be trans, have a trans history. There is also more to my identity beyond the trans aspect. All too often people think that if one is trans, and especially those of us who are also activists on trans issues, that being trans or transgender is the entirety of our existence. There is an implication that being trans rules all aspects of our lives. I am more than the trans part of my identity. Read the rest of this entry »

The Equal Marriage Debate and Those it Leaves Behind

Across North America we are seeing a general move toward marriage equality. Canada has had it for almost ten years, various states within the United States of America have either passed legislation or their laws against equal marriage have been struck down by the courts. On the religious side there are a number of Christian and Jewish denominations that have come to recognise and perform same sex marriages. Currently the Anglican Church of Canada has a commission that is seeking submissions on changing the marriage canon with a mandate to propose a canon amendment to be voted on in 2019 at General Synod1. While I fully support marriage equality I find myself conflicted and somewhat critical of the extreme focus that has been placed on this issue resulting in other issues that face LGBTTQI* people in their daily lives being mostly ignored.

What we have seen in the history of the gay rights movement, and that is what it has primarily been until relatively recently, is a disproportionate focus on the rights of gay men, and a focus on the right to get married. The general argument has been that once these rights are achieved focus would shift to the rights and needs of others under the broad umbrella of queer or LGBTTQI* communities. Those who would not directly benefit were expected to, and mostly did, support the push for these rights. With the focus on the marriage canon in the Anglican Church of Canada we are largely seeing these patterns play out again within the context of the Anglican Church of Canada. While there has been a big push for recognition of same sex marriage in the church, acceptance of gay and lesbian priests who are in long term committed relationships or married we have mostly ignored the larger picture. We have tended to ignore the spiritual and pastoral care needs of those who fall under the umbrella, their families and their friends. It is time for this to change.

There have been many news reports and studies that show the challenges faced by those who fall under this broad umbrella. The challenges include, but are not limited to, rejection, homelessness (particularly for LGBTTQ* youth), inability to find adequate employment, suicide, mental health challenges, and the list goes on. These issues are often compounded by other factors within their lives. Within the church there seems to be a lack of understanding about these issues and whatever pastoral care takes place is often on a case by case basis with each community struggling as the issue comes up for them. While some training exists there is often a lack of training or discussion of pastoral care training with those who are members of oppressed groups. Indeed, there is often no training at all around issues of oppression and safer spaces.

How do we move forward and improve the situation? First and foremost avoid allowing the issue of the marriage canon to dominate the discussion within the church. Yes, the discussion is important, but it is only part of a broader discussion. It gives us the opportunity to start discussing the very real pastoral issues going beyond marriage. Further, the discussion needs to include the people who are most affected and able to speak from personal experience, LGBTTQI* people. One of the key points made in pastoral care is that the most important thing a person providing pastoral care can do is listen and witness to what someone is saying. This also applies when listening to the needs of various communities. When discussing the needs of First Nations people we listen to what they say, or at least we should be listening, white people haven’t been very successful at this over the decades and in the case of the current Federal Government still don’t. The same goes for other oppressed groups that have faced systemic discrimination and erasure and often continue to do so. So far we have had some baby steps on this journey of understanding around the needs of LGBTTQI people in the church. In many places the church still does significant harm to people who are under this broad umbrella.

The future, however, can be bright. We can choose to live out the love taught in the Gospels, welcoming the outcasts, listening to their stories, helping them to thrive in their life journey. In the end we will find that as a community we too have grown.

 

Notes:

1: Invitation for submissions to the Commission on the Marriage Canon (http://www.anglican.ca/about/ccc/cogs/cmc/)

 

Transition: “You’re doing it wrong!”

One of the more interesting things I found when I started my transition and investigating the various ways one can transition was the predominance of one way of looking at transition. The expectation of both the medical professionals and from a large percentage of the trans community is that it’s like following a roadmap. One just has to follow all the steps and one will have transitioned and be a whole person. For some, yes, their transition does follow a relatively straight path. The expectation from others in the trans community often follows this same pattern and many people say that one can set a hard and fast timeline. In reality transition is not so simple. As Kat “Kyosuke” Callahan stated in a recent post on Jezebel, “Transition doesn’t come with a fucking GPS.”1 Yet the pressure is that there is this GPS that one is supposed to follow or one is accused of “doing it wrong.” Critisism that one is doing it wrong comes from multiple sources, psychologists, medical doctors, psychiatrists, other trans people and cis people to name a few. All think that they know better than the individual trans person what the person’s transition or non-transition should look like. Read the rest of this entry »

Harmful Tropes and Aggressions

This week we saw, in all its painful glory, the arrest of Justin Bieber. As is the nature of the Internet a number of memes and jokes quickly started making the rounds. One of the most troubling to me is one that shows Bieber side by side with Miley Cyrus. The implication being that they may be the same person, or that it would be funny if Bieber was trans. Once more trans women are made out to be jokes. On the surface one might be tempted to say, “well, it’s only a joke.” The problem is that it is not a joke. It is one more microaggression that adds to the very real challenges and microaggessions that trans women deal with on a daily basis. The giggles or laughter at a trans woman who doesn’t meet what society expect women to be, or all thy can see is “a man in a dress”. These ideas are entrenched in popular culture. Read the rest of this entry »

2014 Begins with Tragedy and Hope.

Trigger Warning – Discussion of Suicide.
I haven’t been posting or spending much time at all on social media or blogging lately. In large part this has been a self-care move with the start of the Winter school term, other things going on in my personal life, and also a lack of energy for social media.

Early in the week I also saw a post about another trans person who took their own life. I suspected the person was someone I was acquainted with. I had this confirmed late on Thursday.

I pray that Amanda has found peace and that her suffering has ended. I also pray for those whom her life has touched and are hurting at this time.

I know some of the particulars and issues that led to her taking her own life, but will not go into them at this time. The issues are too important for me to write about before finding out more information and putting a lot of thoughtful consideration on how to frame things. They do need to be discussed, and not just by those in trans communities. Read the rest of this entry »

Advent: Preparation and Waiting

For many Christians Advent is a time of preparation. It is the time of the year when we are preparing to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ. It is also a time where we are expected to prepare ourselves for the return of Jesus. The preparation that we are called to do is internal. We’re supposed to look at ourselves and ask ourselves if we are the best person we can be. Are we living up to the image of God within ourselves. Then we are supposed to wait. We don’t know when, where or even if Jesus will return in the foreseeable future. From the perspective of someone who has transitioned later in life I see a lesson that can be learned from the idea of Advent. Read the rest of this entry »

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